Lady Elsie: We all admire him and miss him so much

Thursday 31 Jul 2014
Lady Elsie Robson says her husband left an amazing legacy

Sir Bobby Robson enjoyed an incredible career as a footballer and manager and his influence within the game continues to be felt today.

On 31 July 2009, Sir Bobby sadly passed away, but during his last 18 months, as he was receiving treatment for cancer for the fifth time, he was focused on a new goal away from football.

In March 2008, after a request for help from his oncologist, Professor Ruth Plummer, he launched a cancer charity that he said he hoped would become his legacy.

Lady Elsie Robson

Lady Elsie remembers remembers her 'committed' husband

 

His wife, Lady Elsie, and three sons Paul, Andrew and Mark, are committed to continuing the work he began through the Sir Bobby Robson Foundation and it has now raised £7.3 million to find more effective ways to detect and treat cancer.

Lady Elsie has been reflecting on the last five years and the importance of the Sir Bobby Robson Foundation to other people facing the pain caused by cancer.

Looking back on the tremendous outpouring of grief and the tributes left at football grounds like St James’ Park when her husband died, she said: “It was difficult, very difficult for us all, for the family especially, and I suppose you just get through it.

"You don’t sort of understand until much, much later what it all meant.

“The public responded in such a compassionate way and I think it was something they needed as well at that time. It was wonderful to go and see the spread of flowers and tributes and memorabilia left at St James’ Park and, I think I’ve said this before, for eleven days at that time it didn’t rain, which is unusual in Newcastle, even in August.

“We didn’t have a spot of rain so after that time, someone asked me what we should do with it all, that we really needed to make some decisions, so we decided to clear it all and the shirts were laundered, boxed up and stored until they were transported to various parts of Africa. 

"It was remarkable the outpouring of grief. It was something I think the football public needed at the time, as well as us. We needed it.

“We learned a long time ago to share him in life and we sort of shared him in death as well. That was something which was part of it all and you deal with it.

Sir Bobby Robson

Bobby in his Barca days

 

Sir Bobby had a great passion for his charity, which he called his “last and greatest team”.

“That was a great thing for Bob, that he had the charity," said Lady Elsie. "It gave him a function and a goal to lead his life in that way.

"He was very, very committed to the charity. In fact, I think he was more committed to it than he had ever been, or he felt he was achieving more in a helpful way than he had been as a famous person in his own profession.

“The charity has helped enormously. It’s given us a combined thing as a family to aim for. It’s proved over and over again the respect he was given, for the work he did.

"I think that has come over to us all in a very strong way. Quite unbelievable what we’ve raised in that short time.”

Sir Bobby was humbled by the support his charity received and Lady Elsie says they have achieved even more than they would ever have expected.

Oncologist Professor Plummer needed £0.5 million to equip a cancer trials research centre and asked Sir Bobby if he knew anyone who might like to help.

He responded by launching his charity to raise the money she needed, and in February 2009 he officially opened what became The Sir Bobby Robson Cancer Trials Research Centre at the Northern Centre for Cancer Care, Freeman Hospital, Newcastle upon Tyne. He was very proud that the Centre carried his name.

Sir Bobby Robson

Bobby points the way forward during England training

 

"He was hesitant in the beginning about whether we’d raise the initial half a million we needed to help Professor Plummer. Some of his friends said ‘yes, yes, yes, of course we will’, but he had his own doubts," she said.

"Now, he would be astonished to know what we’ve achieved and what we’ve done with the money. It unites people who are interested in football and affected by cancer. It unites them somehow across our region and beyond.

“He was always a fighter, right throughout his life. He always wanted to achieve. That never left him and with the charity that was very much the case. He wanted to fight on. He had an aim in life and that carried him through really.

"I suppose it gave him less time to focus on his own illness. We would drive out daily, or certainly two or three times a week, to various happenings in the area and that gave him a kind of a lifeline.”

Lady Elsie continued: “He met with a great team at the hospitals in Newcastle. That inspired him. He had the time. Although he was ill, he still had those last few months, the time, that maybe other people who would still be busy with their working life wouldn’t’ have.

"Maybe they couldn’t do what he did because he had the space and the drive and the ambition. It just gave him that feeling ‘well, I’m still doing things, I’m still achieving, I’m still worthwhile.’

“As a football manager you’re probably faced with dealing with problems for your whole working life. You solve one little problem and then another one crops up, and then another one and then another one. And I think he missed all of that in retirement. Well, he never did retire basically. But it kept him going. That’s what he enjoyed.

“But he wouldn’t associate himself in that way. He was a very unselfish person. He really left an amazing legacy.”

Lady Elsie Robson

Lady Elsie receives a cheque from The FA for Sir Bobby's foundation

 

She added:“I’m extremely proud of it. I never thought we’d achieve what we’ve achieved, but it just keeps going on and on.

"We’ve had such a wonderful response from people, from everyone. You still see how people’s faces light up when you say his name. You see the change. That’s a very powerful thing.

"We all admire him so much and miss him, of course, because he was such a larger than life man. In the best way possible, he had to be obeyed! Five years. A long time.”

To make a donation, view messages of support, or for more information please visit www.sirbobbyrobsonfoundation.org.uk or donate by sending a cheque to Sir Bobby Robson Foundation, Charitable Funds Office, Peacock Hall, Royal Victoria Infirmary, Newcastle upon Tyne, NE1 4LP.

By FA Staff